比例

很想拥有好身材
是每个女人的梦想
我也不例外
曾经有个人认真看着我说
你该减肥了
那时候这句话影响了我
让我有那个毅力
动力不断的运动减肥
在三四个月吧
真的减了五公斤
得到每个人的称赞
心里是爽爆

在那期间
让我也培养了我的兴趣
运动成了我的爱好
不运动感觉很不自在
对自己的要求也越来越高
瘦不是完美身材
我要的是肌肉线条身材
半年时间
我要实现

306

虽然没往年精彩
但应该满足吧？;)

摆设品 纪念品

被你说占位子

所以我都不做什么

卡片簿子之类的东西
反正我也没时间
你生日总是在我考试的期间
送的礼物不便宜也不贵
至少是个贴心品:)

生日只是平平淡淡的和家人度过

我觉得你也希望如此
朋友的延迟庆祝
你看来也没什么感觉
还没完....

回不了

睡前看着我们曾经的照片
很感慨
我知道很难回到过去
那一班很好很好的朋友
经常结伴到处玩乐
演变成只是陌生的朋友
之间除了什么问题？
年龄问题？
目标不一样了？
怎样被讨厌了？

连说话的勇气也没了
只怕被忽略
是别人的眼中钉
朋友不应该是这样的
这么了
怎样了
人事物变了
怎么办？

赶尽杀绝

兄弟姐妹
为什么要搞到互相残杀
搞到家庭那么破碎
意气用事
能帮到你什么？
只把事情越弄越糟

能不能面对面把事情搞好
为什么把身边的人也扯进来
搞到每个都不开心

从一开始我是不是做错了选择

15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

温室里的小花

*从小就得到很好的照料
所以长大了
是完美主义者
挑剔 看不顺眼
是她们的专长

*一直都被父母保护
遇到问题
她们会选择逃避
渴望别人的协助
都不会主动面对事实

*爱面子
即使知道自己的错误
都会催眠自己
把错误退给别人
永远不会放下自己的身段
向别人道歉

*公主病
永远要别人跟着她的方式走
任性耍脾气
是她们的特征

请不要觉得完美的事就是最好的
请不要觉得父母是万能的
请不要觉得自己永远是对的
请不要觉得自己能牵着别人的鼻子走

社会的人形形色色
温室里的小花
该出来晒晒太阳

尊重

今天
在MRT里

因为年轻人不让位给老人坐
两个人就起了争执
我的天啊
第一次在现场看到
新加坡人不让位的戏码

亲爱的年轻人（不是很年轻40多岁的人）
身体力壮为何不让位给老人呢？
还出口成章 动手打人?
不是讲话大声道理就在你那
不是力气大就能欺负人
不知道以后你的孩子会是怎样
替你父母感到悲哀
受过教育的你
连基本的礼貌和尊重都没做好
有学问那又怎样呢
真的是败家仔

虽然我们必须尊重比我们年长的人
但
尊重是不分年龄的

请想想后果
再行动

泪

一个巴掌拍不响
你都会说了
感情不爱了
还能说什么？

你比我年长
为什么你的思想那么放不开
退一步海阔天空
为什么你办不到？
能不能敞开你的心胸
接受这些事实

不要让你的父母收拾烂摊子
到处向别人道歉
还说自己没把女儿教好
你知道听了很心酸吗
我承受不起

所以我决定退出
虽然脸上的泪水一整天没干过
也不要带给别人麻烦

我真的很喜欢你

不要怀疑我好吗

不能

原来放弃一段感情不容易
心里的挣扎
内心的空虚
很难抵抗

再想想
与其放弃
不如勇敢点往前？
我知道
我的毅力没那么强
所以我需要点支持
使我有那个动力去坚定

认真看待这场游戏
不再轻易认输 :)

面对再往前

人生错折是不断续的
过去的只是经验
重要的是
要懂得往前
不是停望过去
更不是逃避未来
竟然选择你想要的
为何还放不下过去

请不要再告诉我
那些让我不高兴的事
我会觉得惭愧
而想要放弃

如果再一次说放手
请不要挽回

伴侣

好朋友有了另一半
时间就会留给另一半
多数人都这样
所以朋友们必须体谅
好可怜的朋友


当你失去而觉得空虚的时候
朋友都是你的依靠
珍惜你的朋友

火大

我自尊心很强
我能放下我的自尊
代表我在乎在意
不要把我的自尊当垃圾
好的时机不是常有
过去就不能再找回

不是年纪大
就能自以为是
有时真的看不起那些
从小都在好的环境长大
从小得到都是最好的
从小都被父母宠的小孩
有时真的会羡慕
但有时我根本就不屑

我知道我不该多说
但我不说我不爽

and from now

 YOU

没信心

我和他
可说是一对很多问题的情侣
是不是相处久了
就会没那么在乎对方？
是正常的吗？我不知道
但我不喜欢这样
说真的
长痛不如短痛
如果不在乎了
我也觉得没意思了
有时潇洒点
是给自己新的机会
不适合
勉强也没用

能不能给我安全感
能不能给我点信心